Hello. At least I can give you some possible answers to your questions.
1.In the first picture I can tell you have spider mites. They can do nasty things to citrus trees. Look on the back of the leaves and search for almost microscopic bugs or for their webs. Try and keep the humidity as hi as possible. I'm 99% sure about this.
Did you sprayed with something? Some types of oils do that to citrus (foliar luster oils etc).
2.Your tree is giving signs off over watering (big time!!) Try and let the top inch or two of the soil to get dry.
3. I can see you have the window open and a bunch of trees outside. Are they healthy? "Stuff" can travel easily with the wind to your lemon tree.
Spider mite damage (resembles your leaves):